Dry. Desolate. Hopeless.
That was the condition of the nation of Israel after its destruction. Restoration seemed impossible.
Perhaps you feel that way about your marriage now. Maybe restoration seems impossible. Hopeless.
But is it really hopeless?
I know that not all marriages can be saved. And my heart breaks for those of you who are suffering through the pain of separation or divorce. For some, I know there is no other way.
God sees you. He loves you. God has a plan and purpose for your life no matter what has happened in your marriage.
Sometimes though, our situations feel like they are doomed and headed down the path of destruction, when there is actually hope and new life available.
Sometimes it takes work, perseverance and a desire to seek God in prayer on behalf of your marriage.
I will never stop believing that there is hope, even in situations that feel and seem impossible at times.
After Jerusalem’s destruction, God gave Ezekiel a vision of the valley of dry bones and told him to tell the bones that God would make breath enter them and they would come to life.
Ezekiel obeyed and as he prophesied, the bones came together—flesh and tendons appeared on them and they came to life and stood up as a vast army.
His vision signified God’s plan for Israel’s future restoration. Israel’s new life depended on God’s power and not their circumstances. God would restore them, both physically and spiritually.
God promised to breathe new spiritual life into his people so they would follow Him with their hearts and be united with one another.
Ezekiel 36:25-27
I will sprinkle clean water on you, and you will be clean, I will cleanse you from all your impurities and from all your idols. I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you, I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.
I find these verses applicable to marriage because the Bible often uses the imagery and symbolism of marriage to describe the relationship between God and Israel in the old testament and the relationship with Jesus Christ and the body of believers (church) in the New Testament.
I believe the power of the Holy Spirit can help soften hearts that have turned to stone in marriage. Share on XI believe God can shine light into the dark areas of sin in our marriage and bring restoration when we turn to him.
I believe we can receive healing by the grace of God.
I have cried bitter tears of hopelessness when my marriage felt like dry bones with no life left in it. And I have watched God breathe breath back into our bones. And although it feels like a slow rebirth, with sounds of bones rattling back together one at a time–eventually I felt my heart beating again.
And I know it’s only God.
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I wrote 31 days of mending marriage prayers with a desire to help others grow in finding hope for their marriage. These prayers cover a variety of topics that use scripture verses to help you learn to love your spouse with grace.
I pray they will be a blessing to you and your marriage.
I am not a marriage counselor and I certainly don’t have all the answers.
But if you feel that you need prayer and would like to share your request in the comments below, I would love to pray for you. If you feel led to encourage another sister in the Lord, please do.
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Hello there! I'm Valerie, a mom of four and wife of 27 years. My writing inspires others to cultivate courageous faith and find solace in trusting God, especially in moments of fear and uncertainty. Join me on this adventure as we explore the beauty of trusting God when we are afraid. 
Pls pray for me! we were married for 8 months since Dec 2021. We begin having marital issues here and there but it got worst in August and took an ugly turn in September when my husband, after spending the night together decided to file for separation because i couldn’t meet his immediate demands. During this month of issues, his family especially the mum begin instigating my husband to turn agaisnt me. I married him because he was kind and loving, christlike. Now he doesn’t wanna see me or contact me and went to the extent of changing his contact number. His family especially his sister is pushing him to divorce me and keeps telling me
“The marriage is over. My husband said that too. I am so confused how a loving man can all of a sudden change within a span of 1 month while he stayed in his sisters place. I sense so strongly in my spirit that his sister is out to destroy our marriage and is controlling my husband’s words and decision. He is living in deception and is unaware of it. My heart is for reconciliation because I believe in the sanctity of marriage and God hates divorce. Praying for a heart of flesh and that God will open his eyes to the truth around him. Above all, I believe the God we serve is the God of the impossible. My situation seems hopeless but God’s purposes always prevails!
I don’t know if anyone still is reading these comments this has been here for a while but the article really touched me. Brought me to tears. I have been praying fervently for my marriage for about 5 months now. I wish I would have done it sooner maybe we wouldn’t be where we are now. We have been married for 21 years. My husband has been staying at his mom’s for the past 3 months. I’m not sure where he is spiritually. I feel like he has turned his back on God. He had an accident that required him to be basically immobile for 2 months so he had a lot of thinking time. He also developed an emotional attachment to the home health nurse that came to our house to help him. As far as I know at this moment they are no longer talking and it never crossed the line into a physical relationship. I’m trying to trust him on this one. I believe in our marriage and I don’t want a divorce. Neither of us come from a divorced family, however before me were 2 wives both of which cheated on him. I just am asking for anyone and everyone to pray for us. I still love him deeply, we have an awesome family, my children miss him being at home in the everyday hustle and bustle of life. He says he has not been happy for a while and he doesn’t know if he can love me the way that I need to be loved or the way he should love me. I am over the separation, I’m over the wondering if it is going to get better, I’m over him being gone. I would just like for him to give us one more chance at being happy.
Great article!
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Hello Valerie, I am a husband married for 11 years now and we have 3 kids… 2 weeks ago my wife said she wants a separation and ultimately a divorce. I really hurt her in the first years of our marriage and she seems to not be able to let go. We have been to counseling and God has really worked on me and my marriage. This came as a surprise and it is devastating… I do not want to lose my wife and the family that God has blessed us with. Please pray with me for total restoration.
Hi! I am a stander who has been standing for my marriage to be restored for a little over 4 yrs now.
I am standing for his salvation, and for our marriage to be a Kingdom purposed one once restored.
His name is Charlie.
Thank you,
My husband revealed to me earlier this week that he’s been having an affair for the last 8 months. They work together & developed a friendship that led to more. He’s admitted that in addition to having sex, they’ve had sexual conversations & have sent & received sexual texts. I’m shocked that he could allow this to happen to us. I’m so incredibly hurt! It’s too soon for me to make decisions about our future right now. He said he doesn’t want a divorce, but is unsure about the future of our marriage. He wants to move out claiming he needs space to work on himself. Since the night he told me, he has spent every evening with her from the time he gets off work until midnight or later. My emotions are all over the place & ive said things that were mean & nasty. I don’t want a divorce but I’m not ready to forgive, trust or move forward in our marriage right now. I think I could possibly get there down the road with God’s help. As long as he has an affair partner i feel stuck. .
We both are in need of prayer for clear direction in what we are supposed to do & healing for both of us as individuals & our marriage.
Dear Pam, I cried when I read this. You must feel devasted. I’m praying for you as you navigate through this painful time. Is there a counselor you could go to for individual counseling for your personal support? Psalm 32:10 says, “The Lord’s unfailing love surrounds the one who trusts in him.”When our world is shattered our hope is found in the unfailing love of God. I pray you can feel the presence of his love that will never leave or forsake you.
Dear Lord, Sometimes all I can do is grieve with those who grieve. I’m so saddened for the hurt Pam is going through. You Lord, are the only one who can provide the peace and comfort Pam needs at this time. And I pray you would intervene in this situation. Make Pam strong. Give her wisdom to know what to do and how to set boundaries. Give her strength to face each new day that feels overwhelming and hopeless. Be her hope. Direct her path. Shower your love upon her that she may know her worth. Father you know if this marriage can be restored. Convict her husband’s heart. I pray for full repentance. Healing. No matter what happens, give Pam hope in your unfailing love. You will take care of her. You will provide for her. You will never leave her. Father give her courage. I lift up this marriage to you. We ask for your guidance and help. In Jesus Name, Amen
Hello valerie ,
Me and my wife are separated she moved out to her moms house i trust in God that she will be back , i just need hope that everything is going to be back to normal and i hate going to thru this nightmare, we have 2 kids together and 10 years together please pray for my marriage i dont want this to end! Thank you
Thank you for sharing, Enedel. Dear Lord, You know everything going on inside our hearts and all the pain we carry. Sometimes communication in marriage is so difficult. I pray you would help Enedel and his wife to be able to talk in peace. Where there is hurt, help them to see each other’s pain. Draw them both closer to you through this time. Renew their perspective. Lead them to a counselor or someone who can help them. You are near to the brokenhearted. You restore our souls No matter what happens, you will help Enedel through this. You will help his children. Comfort them and guide them Lord. In Jesus Name, Amen
My husband moved out on 7/23/19 to go live 1.5hrs away back in his hometown (but with a woman he reconnected with via Facebook that he knew from high school in the 90s). We just celebrated our 10yr wedding anniversary on 5/29/19 and have been together nearly 13yrs. He battles depression and just turned 46 on 6/28. His depression had been growing worse over the past several months. He’s CLASSIC TEXTBOOK midlife crisis. I desperately want God to restore our marriage. I’ve read back thru some of our old texts dating back to 2015. There’s no way he doesn’t still love me. I pray he get his life back right with God (I’ve been working on myself for several weeks already) and I pray he comes back SOON! I love him and miss him dearly!
I’m so sorry for all that is going on Cherilyn. So painful! I can tell by your comment how much you love him. Your willingness to extend grace and forgiveness shows the great measure of your love.
Dear Jesus,
Lord, thank you for Cherilyn’s heart. For her willingness to forgive and extend mercy. For her concern for her husband’s despression. Lord, we pray you would pour your love into her husband’s heart. Help him to remember his love for his wife. Soften his heart that he may see his sin and know that you are a God who forgives and who can help restore and rebuild all that has been broken.. No matter what happens, provide and care for Cherilyn. May she have confidence in your great love for her despite her sorrow. May you give her signs of your love and direct her path. You are our good shepherd. You tend to our needs. You see our hurts. You help us. Help Cerilyn Lord. Calm her fears. Bring resoration and healing. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
Please pray for my marriage and my prodigal husband. God impressed on me from the moment of our separation that I should “stand firm” for my marriage. It’s been 16 months and even after he filed for divorce (it was final in June) I’ve remained steadfast. My husband is involved with someone else now and I’m struggling mightily. If God wants me to continue to stand in faith I’m more than willing. But if he wants me to let go and move on, I need to know it from the Lord and not let my circumstances dictate my decision. I’m not his first wife so I don’t know if it is considered a covenant marriage. However, I prayed diligently before marrying this man bc I wanted to honor God. My husband says that he is broken and damaged and may never be ok. He told me that God has washed His hands of him. He is unwilling to talk or communicate at all now. It was almost nonexistent during our separation. He admits that he is running from something and that its what he has always done. I’m desperate to hear from my Lord & Savior what the next right step is for me and my hurting prodigal husband.
Michelle, I’m so sorry for the pain you are experiencing! My heart brakes for you.
Dear Lord,
You see this marriage. You know every thought Michelle’s husband has. You see his hurt and pain. And you know every tear that Michelle has cried. Father I pray you would make your presence known to Michelle’s husband. Bring people into his life to share your love for him and the healing you can bring. Lord your love draws us to you. Soften Michelle’s husband’s heart towards you. Lord, Michelle is in need of your divine wisdom in her situation. Help her to know what to do. Give her discernment. Lord, your Holy Spirit leads us and guides us. We ask that you guide Michelle. Show her the truth of her situation. Give her peace with whatever she decides. Provide for her. Meet her emotional needs and her financial needs. Comfort her in her pain. You promise that you will never leave or forsake us. I pray your presence will bring Michelle hope. You will help her. You will love her. You will provide for her. You will make a way. Thank you Lord. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Please can you pray for my family? my husband left me and my kids about 2 week ago, my kids are suffering.
Thank you for sharing Priscila. I’m so sorry for the pain you and your children are going through.
Lord thank you that you never leave or forsake us. I pray you would comfort Priscila and her children. Help them find strength and hope in you. Bring others into their life who will support them in their time of need. I pray for open communication and that the children would be able to express their grief and feelings. Provide for their needs. Guide them to their next step and give Priscilla wisdom to know what to do. In Jesus’ Name I pray, Amen.
God bless this page and all the people searching you Heavenly Father for answers and revelation. I pray every person who desires a restored marriage and salvation for there spouses to first seek you and learn from you. Teach everyone the power of the spoken word and what they’re speaking over the spouses and marriages. Decree life speak life speak the promises over situations don’t allow your tongues to speak the problems but speak the answers decree restoration. Walk in victory and faith. I’m a stander my story is crazy but the crazy is going to major step up to victory of amazing of Heavenly Father is and his WORD! I won’t back down and allow satan and the kingdom of darkness to defeat me and my husband marriage. I’m a might woman of God and we need to stand in our positions and not waiver or doubt. Threw these season of uncertainty walk by faith and not by sight. Don’t cry about your problems and the what if’s. Praise the lord and speak his word continuously!!! The word over comes the darkness and evil one. The lord gave me psalms 80 to stand on! Keep decreeing and declaring total restoration back to the lord Image he spoke over you and your spouse in the womb. Don’t believe the deception the enemy is trying to paint. He is the father of lies there’s no truth in him “ satan can not tell the truth” speak the words and promises over your life and spouse and marriage. The lords word will never return void. Stand in faith !!!!! Don’t shrink back or the lord won’t be pleased with you. These spouse have to go threw this season as the prodigal son did they have to see it and learn it on there own. But don’t allow it to fill you with fear. The lord has a perfect plan for all the standers. He put that desire to pray and stand for your marriage for significant reason! God bless you all
Thank you for your kind and thoughtful comment and prayer for others. I’m so glad that you shared Psalm 80. I love your words, “Decree life, speak life!” I say amen!
It has been almost 3 months that my husband wasn’t sure if he loved me anymore. He’s been very cold and distant, but on his phone constantly. He’s still at home, still in the same bed, he’s allowed some affection but won’t initiate any with me. We have one son. He wore his ring while we spent time with his family over Christmas, but now it’s not on anymore. He will not come out and directly say anything to me either way about our situation and I’m so fearful to ask. I want to protect my son and I don’t want to throw away 10 years. I’ve been through this before and my ex-husband was unfaithful. So for my now husband, I thought the best husband in the world, to maybe even be cheating…it’s all I can do to not just beg for death. I am so completely hopeless!! Please pray.
Dear Amy, I’m so very sorry you are going through this and I pray that your husband is not cheating. I know this is such a hard time for you and that it feels like life is hopeless. Going through this during the holidays is especially hard. I want to provide this hotline text information in case you feel like you need to call:
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I’m praying for you. Do you have a church you can go to or a friend you can talk to? Dear Jesus, Father please help Amy right now. Be near to her and comfort her. Help her to seek help and support during this difficult time. Lord, you are our hope when life hurts. You are our strength. I pray you would help Amy to know what to do and what to say. Give her peace that is beyond all understanding. Comfort her with your love. Give her strength to face the day and hope for her future. Lord I don’t know what is going on with Amy’s husband, but I pray that you’d reveal the truth and help Amy. Lord your love never fails, never leaves. You will never stop loving us. You will never leave us or forsake us. You help us through the most painful times in our lives. Lord, help Amy through this time. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
My husband has left me for another woman which he lives with he has been gone for close to a year now.Has told me he is in love with other woman has cut off all communication with me and children other woman has cursed me told me to stop txt and calling her man (Whom which is my husband)They have made threats of persuing divorce. I have said some awful things to him but asked God to forgive me and. Direct my path change me. I cant ask my husband to forgive me has has changed number i have no. Idea where he lives i can assume where he hang at but i know that would not be a good idea to go there IM ASKING AND STANDING IN THE NEED OF PRAYER FOR RESTORATION FOR MY MARRIAGE
Erica, I am so saddened to read about your painful circumstances. This life often brings many trials. If your husband does not choose to come back, I’m praying that you would find peace and restoration in Jesus. He has a plan for your life and a purpose for you. You are completely loved by Your Savior who will never leave or forsake you. Keep seeking the Lord with all of your heart and mind. Dear Heavenly Father, Lord you can restore all things. You can bring healing when healing seems hopeless. And so I pray that you would work in Erica’s husband’s heart. I pray for them to both seek you for restoration. Father you know what tomorrow brings. And I pray that Erica’s tomorrows are filled with peace and joy in you. A future she can praise you for. Give her discernment to know what to say and what to do. Guide her Jesus. Give her wisdom. We thank you that you have a plan for our lives. You love us. You will bring us through painful circumstances. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
Please pray for my marriage. We each have kids from previous marriages. My ex husband was abusive and cheated on me. During this marriage I have made a lot of mistakes that he is having a hard time moving past. I need prayers that God will restore what is broken between us help my husband to forgive me and want a future with me again. I dont want to give up. I’m currently staying at my parents and we are sharing time of our almost 2 year old. This is hurting me so bad. He tells me how I am an amazing wife but he is a zombie husband and doesn’t know how to heal. his faith struggles as he was raised in a religion that does not believe in grace but works. So God is not something he follows. But I do I trust god.
Thank you for sharing your heart here Emily. I’m so sorry for the pain you’ve experienced. Dear Jesus, You are the God of miracles. You restore broken things. Your forgiveness has the power to set us free to forgive and love others and to live godly lives. Father, I pray Emily’s husband would seek to know you. Show him the great measure of grace you have freely given to us. Help Emily as she repents and seeks forgiveness. Bring people into their lives who will support and minister to them. I pray for Emily. May your word be her strength and may she find fellowship and the support of other Christians. Give her discernment and wisdom. Give her joy and strength to face each morning. Amen
Valerie,
Can you please pray for my marriage? We are a blended family and are dealing with quite a bit of pain. My first marriage was verbally abusive and my daughters still suffer from the repercussions of that relationship. My current husband is confused by his role in their lives as they are very guarded and are stil in pain. My youngest daughter’s depression is crippling right now and my attention has to be focused on helping her. He looks at her as being manipulative rather than showing her patience and compassion. It has driven a wedge between us and he is angry at me and wants to move out. He is a good man, I think he feels like this was more than he signed up for. He has turned to drinking and has started being verbally abusive as well. I truly feel like God sent him to me, but we have just lost our way. Will you please pray for our family?
Lee, thank you for sharing your heart here. I’m so sorry for all the pain your family is experiencing right now. Lord, Jesus you hold all things together. You teach us and help us to learn how to love each other better. Right now I lift up this marriage. I ask that you help Lee’s daughter who is suffering from crippling depression. And I pray for the relationship between her daughter and husband. Please not only help with treatment and healing but also awareness about depression so that her husband will seek to understand what it’s like for his step-daughter. Give him compassion and a desire to heal the relationship. Guard his mouth from speaking lies and words that degrade and put down. Give Lee wisdom to know how to handle each situation and when/how to set boundaries. I pray her husband would seek to know you and go to you for answers to his own pain and questions. Help him find his own healing through you. Guard and strengthen Lee’s heart. Give her your comfort and peace. Give her discernment. Draw her close to you as she seeks you for help. Direct their paths back to you and back to each other. Thank you that you hear our cries for help. You are mighty. You know everything. You never leave us. You are our counselor. Our refuge. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Hi Valerie,
Thank you for your wonderful words of encouragement.
Can i please request a prayer for my marriage more specifically for my husband. For healing and restoration.
When ever things are not good at home he has the tendency of packing up almost all of belongings and going to stay indefinitely with his mother, during this time weeks on end i dont hear from him then he comes back and we work on it and its good but only for a while and then he packs up again. Please can you pray for God to grant my husband wisdom to stop doing this and causing separation, for God to remove all forces encouraging divorcee, for his heart to soften, for his pride and stubbornness to be removed, for him to love and care for me like Christ did with his bride (the church) for me to be a top priority in his life.
Thank you Valerie
Dear Father,
Lord, you see Caroline’s marriage and you see the pain Caroline experiences when her husband leaves. I pray you would make a way for resolution and bring peace into this marriage. Lord, pour into her husband’s heart. Help him to learn how to communicate in a healthy way so they can both have healing from all the hurts acquired throughout the marriage. I pray you would reinforce the covenant of marriage and help both of them to love and forgive each other. Help her husband to love his wife with godly love. And thank you that your love never leaves or forsakes us. I pray you would fill Caroline with peace and joy. May she know her worth as a child of God. And as the holiday approaches, I pray in Jesus name for peace between them. Help them to see each other through your eyes. I pray against the enemy that seeks to destroy and separate.
my husband, Lloyd Harvey, a and I have been married for three yearather. He has always treated me like I’m nothing. He curses me, asks me to move out or he will put me out, embarrass especially me, doesn’t provide for me or give me money. He doesn’t take me out, hardly speaks to me only to curse me. Now he took my engagement and wedding rings from me. I’m living in he’ll with him. I’m so tired and fed up. We don’t even have sex. He sleeps in another bedroom and doesn’t eat from me. All because I m not getting pregnant for him. He is always angry at me for small things.
Dear Sherene, I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Are you able to find a professional Christian counselor in your area? Some companies even provide free counseling for spouses (police, military…). It sounds like you’re in a situation where there is verbal and (financial) abuse going on. You are a child of God. A creation of God. Counseling can help you learn how to set boundaries for yourself. Boundaries are vital. Please reach out to someone to help. I’m going to list a few resources I reccomend for verbal abuse in the comment section. And I’m praying for you. Dear Lord, Sherene is your child. You love her. You don’t want her to be treated like nothing. In the name of Jesus, I pray you would intervene in this marriage. Help Sherene find someone to counsel her and build her back up so she can be strong in who you made her to be. Convict her husband for the harsh words that are tearing Sherene down. And lead him to repentance. Help him learn how to use his words to build up his wife and not tear her down. Father build up Sherene with the truth of who you say she is. Give her wisdom and discernment to know what to do. Be her strength. Be her confidence. Prepare her. Help her to know how to respond and what to do. Father I pray against the enemy speaking lies to Sherene. Restore her Jesus. Speak truth to her soul when she hears lies. And give her the strength and boldness to find someone to help walk her through this. Jesus, thank you that you are always with us. You help us. You guide us. Lead Sherene, Jesus. Amen
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Dear Valerie,
My wife and I had a big disagreement 3 days ago and since then she hasn’t said a word to me. I tried speaking with her today after church but she rebuffed me. I feel the love slipping out of our marriage, we live like flatmates now and not a couple. She has friends she’s always chatting with on the phone so she doesn’t even feel she needs my company. She makes more money than I do presently and that’s also a big issue as am supposed to be the one caring for the family not her. I feel everything is going wrong, i love her so much, I’ve made a lot of mistakes with her but i don’t want to lose her. We’ve been married for three years now but no kids yet. I wish you could even speak with her over the phone, perhaps her heart will be softened. I can’t even speak with my family members about it cos she’s so stubborn and they’ll most likely take sides with her. Am confused on what to do Valerie, my heart is tearing apart.
Dear David, I hope things have gotten better. I’m praying over your situation. Marriage can be hard work because both spouses feel loved in different ways. I’m sorry you feel so torn up. God is the peace and the strength of your heart. Don’t give up. Have you read the 5 Love Languages? It’s very helpful in learning the way your spouse feels loved. I also have written 31 days of prayers for marriage. I believe in the power of God and prayer. Seek the Lord with all of your heart and pray for discernment. Stay in the Word of God because it will give you wisdom and direction. I’m praying for your wife to have a longing for restoration. Heavenly Father. You know David’s situation and what’s going on in his marriage. Help them both to love each other as they both need. Help them to forgive and heal from any hurts. Help them to communicate in peace and love. Revive their love and commitment to one another. Draw them both to you. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
I am in a very dark cloud rightnow. Yesterday I found out that my husband just filed for Divorce, I can’t believe my marriage is crumbing. I don’t know what to do. I began to question God. I love my husband and I am very willing to fix our problems. Prior to this he was lying and cheating behind my back, worst was telling people that I am crazy and he put me jail for a false accusations. I know after that we are heading to Divorce but why does it hurts still? why do i still love him despite of everything he did? Why would God allow this things to happen? Pls help me pray that my husband will have enlightenment about our marriage, I don’t wanna have a broken marriage.
Dear Chris, I’m so sorry for you pain. Thank you so much for sharing your heart. I know sometimes we don’t understand why God allows such pain. People have a choice to choose Jesus or not. And often their choices hurt others. But Jesus is right with you in your pain. And we can still pray that the love of Jesus grabs his heart so that he chooses the right path for his life. Our prayers can influence our loved ones. I encourage you to read Psalm 31 over and over as a prayer to Jesus in your sorrow and distress. Psalm 28: 7 says “The Lord is my strength and my shield; my heart trusts in him, and he helps me.” Psalm 15:16-21.
Dear Heavenly Father, You see Chris. You have not forgotten her. Father, I pray you would comfort her and relieve the troubles of her heart. Make yourself known to her husband. Soften his heart towards you. Protect her from these false accusations. Help Chris to reach out to you and seek you with all of her heart, soul and mind through this hardship. Jesus, may your unfailing love be her peace and strength. Give her wisdom as she seeks you, Guard her heart. In Jesus Name, Amen
I read your comments and I cry just about every time. Sometimes I have to wait to respond because I pray for the Holy Spirit to help me in my reply. I just went over this entire list of comments and prayed for each of you by name as I wept. I’m so sorry for your pain. Psalm 56:8 says that God collects every one of your tears in HIS bottle. I just read that tear bottles were common in Rome and Egypt around the time of Christ. Mourners would collect their tears in a bottle when they buried their loved ones. Jesus catches your tears for you and walks beside you in your sorrow. I’m praying that you feel His presence in your pain. His comfort in your sorrow. His companionship when you feel alone.
I want restoration for my marriage. My husband doesn’t. I am praying for a miracle in his life as he chooses to walk away from God if knows what he should do.
I am praying for you. My husband walked out on our family 4 months ago and I pray for him daily. Two things to remember, Ephesians 6:12 For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places and Matthew 19:26 Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.” These are two verses I cling to. Stay strong in the armor of God! Prayers!!
Jacque, I just want to thank you for reaching out and praying for Staci. It’s so encouraging to see the body of Christ caring for one another. I’m praying for you too Jacque.
Psalm 56:8 You put my tears in your bottle; Are they not in your book? Dear Staci, I’m so sorry you are going through this. God sees your tears. He carries them for you. And I pray that your husband would do whatever it takes to restore your marriage. Dear Jesus, please comfort Staci. Lord, you know her situation. You see her pain. Please send her comfort. I pray she has support around her. Lord, give her strength. Give her peace beyond all understanding. Help her face each day when she wakes up. Be her joy. Lord, we pray that you would minister your love and truth to her husband. We pray that he would be receptive to you. Carry Staci’s burden. Be the strength of her heart. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Thank you for this beautiful post. I won’t say I’m struggling with my marriage. But it’s more my adult kids. I feel like my family’s falling apart. They don’t want to have anything to do with my husband, their father, the man who had sacrificed his career and stayed home to care for them. It just breaks my heart. I’m stuck in the middle and the kids want me to leave him. Help. I need my family back together.
Thank you so much for sharing Ivy. I’m so sorry for this trial you are going through. I’m praying for your family. Dear Jesus, you see this family and all their hurts and the pain they carry. Lord, I want to lift up Ivy’s family to you. Father, I don’t know the details of their situation. But it sounds like there may be hurt feelings and pain in the relationship between her children and their father. Lord, in your time, if you would make a way for the children to express any pain in their hearts so there could be open communication, then help that time to be a time of restoration and open communication in love. I pray that if there’s any area that Ivy’s husband needs to ask forgiveness of, that you would reveal that to his heart. And if not, help him to rest in your love for him and have peace. I pray you would give them wisdom to know how to handle this conflict. Guide them. Speak to them through your Word and your Holy Spirit. Help them Jesus. Amen
I’ve been married for 19 yrs. Its not been all flowers and rainbows but life was alright. I got a 2nd shift job and things were getting so much better he was talking to me and loving on me but then my husbands “friend” came back into his life after 15 yrs. Hes been spending every day with her while im work. She leaves right b4 i come home between 7-8 hrs a day. She told me hes her soulmate and shes gona make him realize it. Im losing my mind trying to convince him that its not a good idea to spend all his time with her. I feel like my life is crumbling around me. Hes pushing me away and barely talks to me. We have only had like 9 good days in the last 2 months.I have been praying for my marriage but no change so far. Please pray for us and that I can have the strength to keep carrying us til hes ready to get back iin it with me.
What a hard and painful situation Carla. I’m so sorry. Dear Lord, comfort Carla. Draw near to her. Lord you know the situation she is in. Give her wisdom and discernment to know what to do. Speak truth into her husband’s heart. Soften his heart and help him to cut all ties with this other woman and be sorrowful over the pain he is causing. Help Carla to know how to set boundaries and how to face each day. I pray she would seek you with all of her heart and feel your peace that is beyond all understanding. Comfort her Lord. Guide her. In Jesus Name, Amen
Please pray for a reconciliation and restoration in my marriage. With no warning my husband left and filed for divorce just weeks after our daughter was born. He has not been open about his reasonings just says he wants someone different and to be happy. I feel it is an affair but he will not admit anything. Please pray his eyes will be opened to his sins and that his heart will be cleansed and changed.
I’m so sorry Jenny! How painful. I’m praying for you. Psalm 119 is a great Psalm to read out loud to the Lord as a prayer for help. Dear Jesus, It breaks my heart to read comments like these. Father, strengthen Jenny according to your word. Give her your hope and peace. Be her refuge and shield. Reveal the truth to her. Give her wisdom to know what to do. I pray her husband would be open to your truth and repent. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Valerie, pray for my marriage, my husband, and I been married 21 years, on February, he ask me for divorce, he has no feelings for me anymore, only like a roommate, he’s not a believer, I been praying for strength, and peace, I love my husband, he’s still living with us, and we been dating, and do things together, but he’s still has not feelings for me, I don’t want to get divorced. Thank you for your prayers.
Dear Lord, Hear the cry of Celia’s heart. Father, you came to save us from our sin. You died and rose again so we can have new life. You give us purpose and joy. When we call upon you we can live restored lives. I pray Celia’s husband would seek you and come to a saving knowledge of you. We pray your Holy Spirit would move in his heart and in his thoughts about his marriage. Restore their love and renew their marriage. Lord, no matter what happens I pray protection over Celia. Be the strength of her heart when it’s broken. May she find joy and hope for her life in you. Psalm 25:16-21 “Turn to me and be gracious to me, for I am lonely and afflicted. Relieve the troubles of my heart and free me from my anguish. Look on my affliction and my distress and take away all my sins. (20) guard my life and rescue me, do not let me be put to shame, for I take refuge in you. May integrity and uprightness protect me, because my hope, Lord is in you.”
I got married in 2011
2014 I found myself in emotional turmoil due to my husband having an affair
I fought and fought but he wanted a divorce so that he could try to see what would come of them
This lady my husband had been knowing on a level where if he needed to hook up she was that type of person he told me they were just friends I did not find out the truth until I discovered he was having an affair with her
You see she was a part of his life before I came along
In 2015 my husband said he wanted to make it work between us he had made a mistake we got remarried February 2016
In December 2018 I discover that he was having an affair with the same lady he said he was done with he purchased her a car gave her money among other things
This time I am emotionally broke down
This time he has not asked for a divorce always says he wants to make our marriage work
He sat me down while he called her on the phone put her on speaker to tell her that he told me the truth that he no longer wants to live that way
I believe in my marriage
But I’ve been told to walk away
I’m always reminded of the book of Hosea how God kept telling Hosea to go get Gomer
My question is does God restore marriages that have been torn down
I am no ways perfect I’m sure I’ve done plenty to contribute to the issues we had in our marriage but I know that is no excuse for my husband having an affair
I want to restore my marriage am I a fool for still believing
Is there any hope
How do I not allow the enemy to use my pain my hurt to dictate my attitude my behavior on a day to day basis
Example
I see a car that resembles the car he purchase her
Dear Deann, Thank you for your heartfelt request. I’m so very sorry for all the pain you’ve been through! I’ve been praying over your situation. It sounds like your husband has not been truly repentant and sorrowful over his sin of infidelity since he has continued to repeat behavior that has really hurt you. It sounds like you want to make sure he is before moving forward. I believe God can restore marriages where both spouses are willing to do whatever it takes to earn back trust and seek help. I believe setting boundaries in this type of situation is important. And when infidelity has taken place, I think intensive couples counseling would probably be needed. I know every marriage has a different set of circumstances. I am not a marriage counselor and while I believe in marriage and that God does miracles in impossible situations, I know sometimes this is done through setting healthy boundaries. Counseling and prayer can help you learn how to set boundaries and earn back trust. While you have biblical grounds for divorce, only you will know through deep prayer whether your husband is truly repentant and willing to make changes that will restore your marriage. Counseling would probably help you through this. Check referrals from your church. I’m not sure if your husband is a Christian, but I pray that he seeks the Lord and turns his life to Jesus. I’m sure this is so hard for you. The Lord is with you. He loves you. He understands what you are going through. Keep seeking him. He will direct you and lead you and give you discernment for the next step. I’m praying for you. I’ll link some helpful articles and resources on this topic below.
https://www.valeriemurray.com/loving-your-spouse-when-you-feel-like-walking-away-by-gary-chapman-book-review/
https://www.focusonthefamily.com/lifechallenges/emotional-health/counseling-services-and-referrals?utm_source=FOTF&utm_medium=referral&utm_campaign=MarriageJSON
I Valerie, please pray for my marriage. I recently betrayed my husband and broke our vows. He hasn’t spoken to me for days and took his wedding band off. He wont even look at me and it hurts very much. He hasn’t mentioned divorce yet but told me he doesn’t love me anymore and doesn’t care what happens to me. I hate myself for hurting him and doing this to us. I know it was all my fault and the trust has been broken, but I don’t want to lose him or us. I want a second chance and to restore my marriage. Thank you!
Dear Rosa,
Thank you for your honesty in this request. May these verses help remove the guilt of sin. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness. (1 John 1:9)
As far as the east is from the west, so far has he removed our transgressions from us. Psalm 102:12 NIV
Lord, I pray you would comfort Rosa’s husband. Help him to turn to you in his grief. Give him wisdom. May Rosa and her husband seek you through reading your word and prayer. Help them to find healing and counseling for any unresolved issues. Father, you can make all things new. I pray you would help them every step of the way so trust can be restored. Revive them with your truth and the power of your Holy Spirit. Lord when we turn to you, you can hold us together even when it seems like there is no hope. And so I pray that both Rosa and her husband would turn to you now. Show them each what to do.
Pray for my marriage that my husband would come back home we have been married for ten years and he left me fo another woman all I asked of him was to help with the bills of our house
Dear Lord, It breaks my heart to read comments from women who are hurting because their husband has left to be with another woman. Father, you tell us in your word that you will never leave or forsake us. You are always with us. And Lord, you see Gloria and you know every detail of her marriage. You see her pain and the betrayal see feels. Lord, you never force your will upon us. But you do everything to show us how much you love us. Lord, if Gloria’s husband does not know you as his personal Lord and Savior, I pray he would seek you and come to a saving knowledge of you. May the power of your word influence him. Bring people into his life that would minister the truth of who you are to him. Give Gloria wisdom as she seeks you. May she become closer to you through this. We pray that you would bring restoration and healing. Help them to work through their differences. In Jesus Name, Amen
Please pray for my marriage. My husband and I have been together for 21 years and we have four children together. He recently had an affair and has left me for the other woman. I never expected that to happen in my life. I want to save our marriage and I am trusting in the Lord. It’s been three months since he left and I’m handing our marriage over to God. Thank you for your prayers.
I’m so sorry Shannie. My heart breaks for you. Dear Jesus, comfort Shannie. Reveal your presence to her in special ways that will give her strength as she faces an unknown future. Soften the heart of her husband to want to work towards restoration and healing. May he see and remember 21 years of love and the family they have together. May he repent and turn away from this affair in Jesus name. I pray he would turn to you for direction in his life. Bring people into his life that will direct him towards you. Protect their children as they navigate these painful circumstances. Father, may the power of your Holy Spirit bring peace and comfort to Shannie as she waits. Give her wisdom, Lord. When she wakes up in the morning, be her joy. Her hope. Her comfort and her love. You will never leave her. You will never forsake her. We pray for restoration and healing Lord. In Jesus name, amen.
Please pray that God restore my marriage…my husband left a month ago and is already in the home of his kids mother and having a relationship with her…I pray for this To end in Jesus name.
What God has join together let no man separate
Dear Lord, God you see Janell and hear her cries. You know every tear that falls. We pray that her husband would seek to restore his marriage. Lord, help her husband to turn to you for direction and help. Comfort Janell during this time. Give her your peace that surpasses all understanding. Give her strength for each new day. May she find her hope in you. Her joy in you. I pray that both Janell and her husband would seek you with all of their heart, soul and mind. May your presence comfort Janell, dear Lord.
Thank you and please pray for my marriage.
Dear Heavenly Father,
Lord, you are all knowing. All-powerful. We believe that you can restore the broken places in our marriage. We believe your love covers all our sins. Father, you see Damon and you know every single request. We ask that you turn both of their hearts towards you. Help them to learn how to love each other in a way that helps the other spouse feel loved. Bring people into their lives who can minister and support them. Help them to communicate well. Father, pour out your Holy Spirit upon all the broken marriages that are struggling right now. Pour out your love over every hurting heart. Bring restoration. Forgiveness. Healing. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
My husband and I separated a few days ago. He says he doesn’t have romantic feelings for me, and doesn’t think he ever did. He has said a multitude of hurtful things, and says he doesn’t want to be married to me anymore, and he won’t budge or go to counseling. I don’t know whether I should pray and try to fight for my marriage, or if I should just move on. I’m a Christian but my husband is not. I keep seeing things about fighting for your marriage, and how God hates divorce. I don’t want to get divorced. I just don’t know what to do. Thank you.
Dear Whitney, I’m so sorry for the pain you’re going through and for the hurtful things your husband has said to you and done. I’m praying that the Lord gives you wisdom for your marriage. Keep praying and seeking the Lord and he will direct you. Dear Heavenly Father, I lift up Whitney’s marriage to you. Lord, we know that your Holy Spirit can soften hearts. We pray that you would help restore and heal their marriage. You draw us to you with your love. But not everyone chooses to follow you. Father we pray that you would soften her husband’s heart towards you. Help him to want to fight for his marriage. Help him to understand what agape love in marriage is all about. Lord, if he chooses to leave I pray that you would help Whitney. Strengthen her according to your word. Give her your peace that is beyond all understanding at this time. Set her mind upon you. Comfort her. Give her hope. As she seeks you in prayer, Father direct her path. Speak to her through your word. Give her wisdom. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
Please pray for me and husband. He left me pregnant for another woman. She was also married with 2 kids. Our baby girl is now 7 months and he is still with the OW as both have left their spouses. I’m so heartbroken and depressed. It’s so hard to function. I pray and pray but I feel like the Lord isn’t listening to me. I don’t know if I should keep standing for my marriage. Things seem so hopeless. I can’t pray anymore I feel so devasted.
I’m so sorry Leslie. I’m praying God gives you wisdom and strength. Heavenly Father, we pray your presence would comfort Leslie. She feels heartbroken and abandoned. Father, sometimes people make bad choices and destroy relationships. Sometimes we have to make choices to move on. And I pray you would give Leslie discernment to know. I pray that you will restore Leslie and give her the strength to function and find new hope for the days ahead. May she find peace in you Jesus. You will never leave her. You will never forsake her. Make your presence known to her Lord. Direct her steps. Protect their baby. Be her refuge. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
My husband and I are separated, its been 2 years of separation due to his infidelity. We are in 2 separate states (I left with our kids due to the cheating, couldn’t take it anymore).
It has been an ongoing up and down battle. Many attempts to reconcile only to find he still is lying and unfaithful. He reaches out and we begin talking daily for him to go right back to things that dont add up and cause more hurt.
I am tired. I don’t even have the energy to pray. I’m numb. At one point I prayed and cried out to God daily for months. Lately I try to gather the strength to pray because I know its powerful, but I hardly do, don’t know why, I just don’t feel like it.
I need guidance and prayer for me, my husband and family.
Zsanara, I’m so sorry for all the pain you’ve experienced in the last few years. Anyone would feel tired, numb, and weary going through what you have. I’m praying for you. I pray God will give you the wisdom to know the next step for your life and give you courage, hope and strength through it. God hears you and knows your heart and your prayers when you have no words to pray anymore:
Romans 8:26-28 The Message (MSG)
26-28 Meanwhile, the moment we get tired in the waiting, God’s Spirit is right alongside helping us along. If we don’t know how or what to pray, it doesn’t matter. He does our praying in and for us, making prayer out of our wordless sighs, our aching groans. He knows us far better than we know ourselves, knows our pregnant condition, and keeps us present before God. That’s why we can be so sure that every detail in our lives of love for God is worked into something good.
Dear Lord, Give Zsanara wisdom and discernment to know what to do now. Give her courage and your strength when she is weary and worn. Renew the joy of her salvation and light her way with your hope. Help her children and her family to become closer to you in their pain and find hope in your presence. I pray the power of your Holy Spirit would comfort them and renew them and enable them to find peace. We pray this in your Mighty and Powerful Name, Jesus. Amen.
Hello valerie, my name is stacey.ill be 28 yrs old in august. My husband and I were together for 10 years. We have 2 children. Our daughter is 9 and our son is 1. On march 1st my husband broke up with me. Ever since then, i havent been the same. Im lost, broken, shattered. My life doesnt feel right at all. Its so hard to believe that this has happend. I pushed him away with my insecurities and accusations. I have depression and anxiety and i would overthink so much. It drove him crazy and he finally said he was done. I have prayed every night for marriage restoration. I dont know what to do anymore. My husband still lives with us. He sleeps in the livingroom. He works all day. And on his day off he leaves and sometimes he will invite us to go out to eat. He hardly talk, only when he comes home from work we talk alittle bit. I feel like my heart is just falling apart little by little when i look at him because hes not by my side. I miss him so much. Im devastated. I cry every time i pray. I cant take the pain. I know Gods timing is perfect. But it hurts, it hurts so much. I dont know if hes talking to other women already. I dont know whats going to happend. I dont know if God has tried giving me signs that hes going to restore our marriage. I dont know, i cant tell. Im tired, and i feel like i lose hope. I need help. I dont know what to do. It hurts.
Dearest Stacey, It broke my heart to read how much pain you’re in. I’m so sorry. I’ve been praying for you this morning. Psalm 34:18 says, “The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit.” I’m praying you would feel the nearness of God. He is your refuge in times of trouble. Sometimes when we don’t know what to do, all we can do is pray and cry out to God. And that’s ok. Psalm 142:3 “When my spirit grows faint within me, it is you who know my way.” Heavenly Father, Draw near to Stacey as she draws near to you. Comfort her with your hope and unwavering love for her. Lord, we thank you that your love for us is not based on conditions. Your love is steadfast. Your love never ceases. You will never walk out on us. No matter what this life brings, we will always have you. Lord, you go before us. You are already in all our tomorrows. You lead us. Father, lead Stacey through this painful time. Get her through moment by moment. May your Holy Spirit calm her anxious heart and mind and bring her your peace. her husband’s heart. We pray he would turn to you and seek your will for his life. In Jesus Name, Amen
Thank you so much. I hope God can find it in my husbands heart to forgive me and give me another chance. I love him so much. Im trying my hardest to be okay.
My husband of 7 years left a week before Christmas 2018. He decided 2 months before that he no longer wanted to be married. I have been in depression for a long time from having kids and gaining weight to dealing with past cheating and my mother dying June of 2017. He had been having an emotional affair with a coworker and thats when he decided he was done. He has been still talking divorce for several months and I have been praying ferverantly for restoration. He is not a believer but I have faith God can and will reach him. My heart aches as we have 3 children one of which just turned a year. Please pray God will reach him and he will recieve him and he will come home and no longer pursue divorce.
Bonnie, thank you for sharing your request. May God bring you comfort and peace as you trust in Him. Heavenly Father, thank you that no matter what happens in this life, we can never lose you. You will never leave us. You will always stay and love us. Lord, would you comfort Bonnie and give her your joy? Would you reveal yourself to her in special ways that would show your presence and love for her? This young mom has small children and is carrying a heavy load. Take the load for her and release her from the weight of her burdens. Jesus, we pray that her husband would come to a saving knowledge of you. Bring people into his life to witness and minister to him. Soften his heart towards you and towards his wife. Bring restoration and healing and lead him back home to his family. Help Bonnie to face the day one step at a time and give her the strength to do so. We love you Lord. Thank you for hearing and answering our prayer.
These are words I needed to read. My husband of 3 years has been having an affair for the last 7 months. His affair is a response to marriage problems perpetuated by my depression that I suffered. My husband lost his mother in December, and he left me in March. I truly believe the enemy is trying his best to weaken my family, and he brought my husband this temptation. After he left me, he told me he wants a divorce. I have prayed every single day and every night that God’s will be done and that our marriage lasts. I request prayer for our reconciliation and for my husband to allow God to guide him and open his eyes and heart. I request prayer that the enemy doesn’t continue to influence my husband and that my husband will turn back to God. Thank you.
Shelby, my heart breaks for you. I’m so sorry for the pain you are experiencing. Thank you for sharing your request. Heavenly Father, comfort Shelby at this time. She is hurting and is crying out for help. Father we cry out Psalm 31 “Be merciful to me, Lord for I am in distress; my eyes grow weak with sorrow, my soul and body with grief. My life is consumed with anguish and my years by groaning, my strength fails because of my affliction.” Lord help Shelby find strength and hope in you. Help her as he battles through depression. Comfort her husband who has lost is mom. I pray he would end this affair and turn his life to you. Restore what is broken. Show him the fullness of your love for him and your purpose for his life. No matter what happens, I pray that Shelby would find her refuge in you. Guard her heart and give her your peace as she seeks you. Thank you that you are always there for us. You never leave or forsake us. You walk us through the painful times in our lives. We pray for restoration. We pray for a miracle. We pray for healing. In Jesus’ Name, Amen.
Valerie,
My husband waked out on us a little over a month ago. We have two kids together and have been married for 10 1/2 years. After he walked out he started living with a 26 year old. We are still married and he has filled for a divorce. My kids and I pray everyday day and night for him to come home. I don’t believe in divorce. He will go 5 days and not have anything to do with his kids. I’m guessing it’s because of the new piece. She is a control freak. So the kids and I keep moving on and praying. Today we are making a War Room. I know what my husband is doing is wrong. But I still love him more and anything. Our kids cry ever night for there dad to come home. Any prayers would be greatly appreciated. We keep praying for a miracle!!
Thank you,
Susan
Dear Heavenly Father, Lord you see Susan’s request. You hear her cries. We ask that you would stir the heart of her husband to be moved by the forgiveness Susan is showing her, the love and grace and forgiveness that comes from you. May Your love for Him soften his heart towards your will and to restore the relationship with his wife and children. Help him to see that the path he is on is not from you and to turn from his ways. I pray for these precious children who are hurting and in tears. Lord, if this breaks our hearts it must break yours. Be the arms that hold and comfort them. Steady them. Speak your love to them. Minister to them. Be Susan’s strength every morning. May she find joy and peace in You during this sad time. Shower your love, mercy and grace over every one in this family. Give them wisdom and guide them as they wait. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
Please pray for my marriage. I have failed my husband and broke our vows. I love him and I know he loves me. I am willing to give him the world and sacrifice anything and everything for another chance. We have not yet divorced but he has told me he wants me out of his life and never wants to see me again because of my actions. I am so angry with myself for not valuing him as I should have. Please pray that God will restore my marriage. I am not done fighting for him.
Dear Anna-Maria, Thank you for sharing your heart and situation. I’m praying for you. God’s grace covers you. I pray that you would be able to live in the grace of God and know his love and forgiveness for you. My friend Shannon Guerin writes about how her marriage survived her infidelity. Her website is being revamped but will soon show up. It’s https://shannongeurin.com/how-marriage-survived-infidelity/.
Dear Heavenly Father, Lord I thank you for Anna-Maria’s openess to share her request here. Father, I pray that you would restore her. As she confesses and repents, I pray she would be able to wipe away the guilt and shame of her sin. Lord, your grace abounds and covers every sin. Lord, I pray for her husband’s heart and the rejection he feels. Lord, I pray that one day he would be able to trust again. May he turn to you and receive your love and direction. May he seek you for wisdom and guidance. Bring people into his life to minister to him. Lord, we pray you would work out the miracle of restoration and forgiveness in their marriage. Bring your healing. Your grace. Your peace. We love you Lord. Amen.
Thank you so much for your prayers. Last night he told me his decision to get a divorce. I hope God heals his heart. I really dont think this is supposed to happen. I truly love him and feel so terrible that I threw away my marriage. I am worried that God is punishing me now or something. I just want to be happy with my husband and rebuild. Thank you once again for your prayers. I hope the Lord hears me.
Dear Anna-Maria, Romans 5:8 says “But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” Everyone who believes that Christ died for their sins and rose again is a child of God. The heart of God is to save us from our sins. Jesus loves you and forgives you. His heart is not to watch you suffer (punish you) but the very reason he died on the cross was to save us out of love. If you have never invited the Lord into your life all you do is say a simple prayer like this, “Dear Jesus, I believe that you lived a perfect life and died on the cross for my sins. I believe you rose again. I confess that I am a sinner and need your forgiveness. I want to live my life for you.” The Bible says that God forgives our sins as far as the east is to the west. The blood of Christ covers every sin. All sin separates us from God and we all need a Savior. Salvation is not earned but is a free gift from God. Psalm 116:2 says “Because he bends down to listen, I will pray as long as I have breath.” The Lord hears your cries. Your husband may need time to heal. I would suggest seeking professional counseling and taking steps to show your husband that you are willing to take any steps necessary to help restore the marriage and earn his trust. I’m currently reading a book to review on my blog called, “Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away” by Gary Chapman. It talks about how we cannot change a person but we can influence them through positive actions. Maybe your husband would be willing to join you in counseling after you start. “For marital healing after unfaithfulness, forgiveness is essential. It involves two key elements: confession and asking for forgiveness on the part of the erring spouse, and genuine forgiveness on the part of the offended spouse.” This kind of restoration often requires some outside help. I’m praying for you! I just watched the movie Paul of Tarsus. It is a beautiful movie about Paul’s life and redemption and forgiveness. Jesus loves you Anna-Maria.
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I have been married for 21 years. My husband had affair. We tried working it out niece but he ended up seeing the same girl. My Husband is 42 and she is 22, 3 years older then my daughter. He has become someone don’t recongnize nor does his close friends or family. He has allowed the enemy in his heart. It seems so impossible right now for restoration but I know that God can do the impossible and I have been fasting and praying for his salvation and for God to open his blinded eyes. The scripture says when two or three gather in His name that he is there with us! I just ask you to pray with me for a healing, rebuilding, and restoration of my marriage and family. Thank you!
Oh Nikki, My heart breaks reading this. I’m so very sorry for your pain. Tears fill my eyes as I pray for you. I stand with you for the salvation of your husband and for God to restore what seems so hopeless. I pray that the Lord would soften his heart and that your husband would turn to God and surrender his life to Jesus. I know it would be so difficult and painful if your husband does not desire restoration and turn away from his sin, but I believe that God can and will restore you no matter what happens and enable you to use your brokeness to help others someday. I pray God grants you his peace that is so beyond what we can understand in difficult circumstances. I pray the Lord would meet you in your pain and comfort you and give you wisdom.
Father, We ask that you would make yourself known to Nikki’s husband. Give him signs of your love and plan for his life. Soften the hard places in his heart. Father, we pray for a miracle. We pray for the impossible. Lord, if he decides to not turn from his ways,I pray you would grant Nikki the wisdom to know when to move on. Give her your peace. Give her hope for her future no matter what. Strengthen her with your Holy Spirit power. Prepare the way for her. Comfort her breaking heart. Protect her children. Direct her every step. Thank you that you hear her cries for help. Reveal your answers dear Lord. In Jesus Name, Amen
My husband and I were together for 12 years, & have been separated for two. Then this past December we went through a divorce. He is with another woman and she is now pregnant. Me and him have two children together ages 11 and 7. I feel that God has told me to stand for my marriage and I’m trying the best I can but some days it gets so hard and I feel hopeless. I know we serve a God of the impossible and that I need to not look at the circumstances and to only trust God and his perfect timing for restoration. My husband is so blinded by the enemy and I pray for him daily to be brought to light and for God to restore our marriage. Please pray for us. I know all of this is for God’s glory and when the day comes all praise will be his!
Oh Amber, I’m so sorry for all the pain you’ve been through. My heart breaks when I read all these prayer requests. I’m also touched with how many women have forgiving hearts towards their spouses who have left them. I see a forgiving heart in you, Amber.
Thank you for sharing here.
Dear Lord,
You see the pain Amber has been through. Your word says you even collect all of our tears and know every one that falls. Comfort Amber and give her strength in this difficult situation. Bring Godly men into his life that would share the truth of who you are with him. Soften his heart towards your ways and your plans. No matter what happens, I pray you would give Amber hope for her future and joy in knowing you. Direct her path and guide her every step. We pray that you would work out this situation Lord. Thank you for hearing our cries. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
Please pray for restoration of my marriage. My husband left home since Thanksgiving. We have a 5 year old and a 6 month old. He is so angry with me and states he wants a divorce. My heart is broken. I have been praying every moment that God will restore His kingdom and bring my husband to Himself. I have faith in our Lord that He will bring my husband home to us. Please pray for me!
Thank you for sharing your heart here, Angela. I’m so sorry for the pain your are going through. Dear Heavenly Father, Lord you created marriage to be beautiful companionship. And yet, so often we our marriages are tainted by pain and suffering and our own ways. Father, you see the pain in Angela’s heart and how alone she feels. Lord, we lift her husband up to you. We pray that he would come to a saving knowledge of you. We pray that he would see how much you love him. We pray he would find hope for restoration in the marriage. You can help us see areas where we can change and make our marriages stronger. You are the glue that holds us together. The love and grace you shower upon us, helps us to love our spouse with love that comes from you. I pray for restoration and healing for both of their hearts. Comfort Angela with the truth that you are with her. You will never leave or forsake her. Lead and guide her through this painful time. Give her wisdom. Give her rest. Give her joy. Peace. In Jesus Name, Amen
See my previous comment below. You may enjoy my friend’s blog post about how her marriage survived infidelity. https://shannongeurin.com/how-marriage-survived-infidelity/
I had been married for 23 years. And it was a constant fight .I got to where I didnt care if my husband came home from work or not (he is a cop).Well after a big blow up I said Lord,Im done show me a way out. When that way (which I really thought was GODs way) happened I left. We filled for divorce and it became final in March of this year. Well in July/August this year we both started seeing other people . Mine was my best friend from schools brother, he started seeing a girl 28 yo . Well I thought I was happy ….When the one time i was “with” this guy I just started laughing….I kept thinking of my husband and how what I was doing wasnt right,I kept hearing Nicole what in the world are you doing??? So, I broke it off with him (we only really had been seeing each other for about a month) Started PRAYING I mean Really Praying and I realized that I Loved my husband ,so I told him how I felt … and he said he couldnt go back,that I was only saying these things bc of __________,But i wasnt I Really Do LOVE this man. I have been standing for reconciliation since September at times I feel really lost and Hopeless .But I continue to pray and seek God .Any and all prayers are greatfully appreciated
Thank you so much for sharing your heart here, Nicole. Your comment really touched my heart when I read it. I want to apologize for not responding sooner. Thank you for your transparency in sharing. I love how praying helped you realize your deep love for your husband. Dear Lord, marriage can be so hard. We are human, and our deep love for one another can often be masked by our emotions and following our own way. Thank you that Nicole has seen that being with this other man was not right. Thank you that through seeking you in prayer, she has seen how much she really does love her husband. Lord, I pray that you would restore their marriage. Father, work in her husband’s heart to restore that deep love back and commit to be married once again. Help them to work through any differences they may have. Lord, if her husband does not choose to marry again, then give Nicole your strength, peace and comfort as she grieves this loss. Give her hope and direction for her future.
See my previous comment below. You may enjoy my friend’s blog post about how her marriage survived infidelity. https://shannongeurin.com/how-marriage-survived-infidelity/
My husband and I have been married 19 yrs and never had a good marriage. We’ve done counseling more than once but I still believe it can be saved. Neither one of us talk about divorce but we’re really just roommates. I want to have a happy, loving and Christ centered marriage. Please pray for us
Thank you for sharing Missy. Dear Lord, Missy and her husband have been married for 19 years. Today I pray your Holy Spirit would restore life and love back into their relationship. Give them both eyes to see the qualities that drew them together when they met– along with the desire to know and understand one another. I pray her husband would desire to emotionally connect with Missy and spend quality time with her. Help him to come to a place where he understands your deep love for him. Lord, your kindness draws us towards you. You desire for us to have a strong marriage rooted in our love for you. Lord, thank you for hearing our prayers. Comfort Missy with your peace that surpasses all understanding.
I request that prayer for the Lord to restore in my marriage as we are in urge of divorce with a period 6 months Validity only left.
Father, You know every detail of our lives. You go before us no matter what happens. Lord right now Mejo is praying for restoration in her marriage before this divorce is final. Father, we pray that they would both desire to reach out to you and restore and heal the places in their marriage that are broken. I pray your comfort over Mejo. May your Holy Spirit bring peace. Lord we know that nothing is impossible with you. But Father, if Mejo’s spouse chooses divorce, I pray you would strengthen Mejo and direct her path and future. Breathe new life into Mejo and the joy that comes from walking close with you through every storm. Lord, you will never leave us alone.
Thank you Valerie, I ask that you pray for my son who fought to restore his marriage of 9 years. Even though God has a plan and purpose for our life the ex-wife had a different plan for her life. Without thinking of how this would affect their four children, she decided she was no longer happy so she proceeded to divorce him anyway. I’m grateful that in the midst of the hurt and pain of the separation, my son NEVER stopped taking his children to church….I ask that you pray for him as we wait on God to touch the judge that will determine the fate of my grandchildren.
I also ask that you pray for my daughter, her husband and her two boys.
Blessings to you and your family.
Dear Lord, thank you that you are the source of our strength. You hold us when we are weak. We pray that you would hold this family as they walk through the pain of divorce. Protect the hearts of these children. Help them find joy and peace through you in this difficult time. Comfort Olga through your word. We lift up her daughter, husband and children and pray they would draw close to you and be united. We love you Lord and thank you that you always hear our cries for help.
Valerie, thank you for your willingness to pray. My husband of 21 years this October 5 doesn’t want to be married anymore, he said. He feels it would devastate our 3 children (aged 17, 16, & 8) and rightly so. So he feels “stuck”, hopeless, and depressed.
This all came to light 7 months ago when I inadvertently caught him in a late night message with a female coworker. Since then I have fasted many days and prayed with tears on my knees and face for him.
He wants nothing to do with church or God. He has pulled away from everyone and everything but work. He’s said he doesn’t care about things and our kids don’t care about him. I’ve realized his depression could actually be real clinical depression. He won’t get help. He’s proud.
Only our God can help us. Please pray.
I can’t help but shed tears when I read the pain you are going through. Dear Lord, I want to lift up Shelley’s husband to you. Father, you see the hurt he is carrying. Lord, I pray that he would come to realize that what he is really searching for and aching for is your divine love and redemption. I pray your Holy Spirit would minister to him. Help him to see the hurt he is causing and to know that you are there with open arms to forgive him. I pray he would break this relationship with this co-worker. Lord, please stop that relationship from progressing any further. Stir within his heart a renewed love for his wife that only you can do. Bring to his mind thoughts of his love for her and help him to see the gift she is to him. Help him to see his 3 children and desire to know them on a deep level. Lord, we know that first he needs to come to a place where he understands his great need for you. Lord, give him the desire to seek help for his depression. Open those doors somehow. And now, for Shelley. What a burden to carry. What sorrow to think about. Psalm 56:8 says, “You keep track of all my sorrows. You have collected all my tears in your bottle. You have recorded each one in your book.” Comfort Shelley. Give her time with friends or time in your creation to renew her soul. Give her peace beyond all that our human minds can understand.
Thank you so much. Thank you for your blog, you’re encouragement, and prayers. To think how God bonds strangers together to pray, grieve, and rejoice is so special! I agree with you in prayer. May God hear and answer in His perfect timing. His Will be done!
Please pray for my marriage. My husband Marcus checked out of our marriage a few years ago and I felt the change bit tried to give him the benefit of being a trusting wife and thinking it was just a phase then about 9 months ago I cane home to find him alone in our home with another woman. Since then he has not stopped seeing her of engaging in activities such as drinking and friendships that lead him astray. He has said sorry but has not repented or expressed any desire to fix our marriage. He filed for divorce almost 4 months ago but has yet to move forward with anything further but claims he doesn’t Love me or want to be together, says it’s not because of anyone else but around others he has no problem acting as though his with this other woman. We’ve been together since we are 16 and have 3 beautiful children, I know I’m gonna stand and fight for my marriage at all costs, I know God can restore what us lost, I just pray my husbands heart can soften so he his receptive again to the Lord and his will for our marriage because right now he sees nothing wrong with what he’s doing our finds excuses to justify it, and I know that’s the devil whispering in his ear. Sorry this is so long, thank you and God Bless.
Dear Lord, I don’t know if Marcus knows you but I’m praying right now that he will come to a saving knowledge of you. I pray that he would begin to seek you and discover your love that changes everything for us. Lord, when he sees his family will you give him eyes to see into the hurt he is causing? Will you pursue him with your love and truth? Lord we know that you don’t force yourself on people but you can influence hearts. And we pray that his heart would be softened towards the things of you. Lord thank you that you don’t leave us alone. When earthly love fails us, your holy perfect love will hold us. So I’m praying right now that you wrap up Kimberlee in your arms and her 3 children and restore their broken hearts. Comfort them, provide for them and direct the path of their future. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
Please pray for my husband Jun. He left our marriage and is now in a relationship with another woman. He does not think he is doing anything wrong and insists that their relationship is ok(we are still married). Please help me pray that God will open the eyes of his heart to God’s truth. Please help me pray for his freedom from captivity and his salvation.
Lord we come before your presence and lift up Jun. Lord show him that this is not your plan for him. Soften his heart towards you. Father I pray that he would come to a saving knowledge of you. We know that nothing is impossible with you. Work in his life by bringing people into his path that will direct him towards you. You see the cries of Mona’s heart. You see every tear. Lord, no matter what you want her to know that you will never leave her. You will never forsake her. Lord I pray that you would comfort her with your peace. When she feels rejected and alone send her special signs of your presence and love. Give her the strength to face a new day. In Jesus’ Name, Amen
Please pray that my husband will return to his family, our family. And leave this other woman alone. He is confused as to which is his duty I think
Lord, my heart breaks for Candice. Father, I pray that her husband would be able to see clearly your plan and walk away from this other woman. Show him your grace and forgivenesss that changes lives and leads us to repentance. Lord you will never walk away from us. You will never leave us. You never forsake us. Steady Candice with your love and promises. In Your Holy Name I Pray, Amen.
My husband, that he will totally leave others alone, even with a child involved and totally commit to me, our kids and God again.
Lord I lift up Crystal’s broken heart to you. Lord we pray that her husband would be brought to a place where he would commit his life unto you. Father soften his heart towards you and help him to see the depth of your love towards him so he can love his family. Help him to walk in your ways. No matter what happens though Lord, be strength and courage for Crystal. Wrap your arms around her and comfort her during this time. Carry her sadness. Carry her hurt. Give her your peace that surpasses all understanding.
I too have watched God breathe into the dry bones of my marriage. I too have cried until I felt I had no tears left. But God has been merciful and compassionate and my marriage has received new life. But in the days of darkness it was full of hopelessness and despair. God has been faithful but I do covet your prayers, Valerie. Blessings.
Thank you for sharing Lureta. I’m so glad you have seen new life in your marriage. May that new life keep growing stronger. Praying protection over the years to come.
That is such a beautiful story of hope! God is always faithful. Thank you for sharing it
Thank you for stopping by Tiffany.
Please pray for my husband Matthew. He’s an amazing husband but he has a lot of childhood wounds and is always up and down with God. And I believe the only way he’ll fully turn his heart to God is by knowing the love of his Heavenly Father and he lets go of these hurts and ask for help instead of hiding behind the walls in his heart. I know God has a plan for him and I and the enemy is trying to divide us. I need prayer for grace and strength and unconditional love towards him no matter what I see…thanks ?
Dear Lord, Father I lift up Erin’s marriage to you now. She is seeking you for hope and direction. I pray you would work in Matthew’s life and draw him to yourself. Heal his hurts and the pain that drives him away from you and instead help hIm to see clearly your deep love and mercy towards him. Protect Erin’s heart and be her strength, peace and joy as she commits to following you and seeking your wisdom and guidance for her marriage. We pray by the power of your name and Holy Spirit that you would work behind the scenes in the spiritual realm that we can’t see to draw Matthew to your lovingkindness that leads us to repentance. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Thank you for sharing your heart Erin. My prayers and thoughts are with you.
Amen! This is such a great verse for marriage! I never thought of it before but it makes perfect sense! Love your fresh perspective and I pray you reach many married souls through your prayers!
Thank you, Selina for your kind words and encouragement. They blessed me.
Yes! Never stop believing that there is hope. Our God is a God of miracles and restoration. I have so enjoyed this email series that you created, Valerie. Thank you for sharing at Grace and Truth last week. I would love to feature this post tomorrow.
I’m so glad you’re enjoying the email series. Thank you so much for featuring this post tomorrow and Grace and Truth. I pray it reaches many who are searching for hope and peace from God.
As the others before me have said, thank you for sharing this.
Marriage is not accidental. It’s a daily walk – which should teach us how to also walk in our relationship with God.
God created a beautiful thing in marriage. When it is hard, we need to remember that every relationship is refined through fire – it’s what went into the fire that determines what comes out.
We need to put our faith and trust in Him, pray daily for strength, and live out His ways to get through the good AND the bad days.
That is true, marriage is a daily walk as is our relationship with the Lord. As we grow in one, we also grow in the other. Great insight!
Marriage is a big deal. And definitely not something to take lightly. Thanks for reminding us to soak it in prayer, both when it’s dry and when it’s not. Thank you for sharing this, Valerie!
Thank you for commenting Cassie!
Valarie, Thank you for sharing this great analogy from Ezekiel–God is a God of restoration, and I know that so many struggle to see hope–BUT.GOD. He is the healer, redeemer, and source of hope that so many in our world need today! Stopping by from Grace Girls–happy to meet you! 🙂
Hi Vickie and fellow Grace Girl! Thank you for stopping by and for your encouraging comment.
I love your heart to help the hurting in marriage, Valerie! I share that passion and calling with you, and wholeheartedly echo the difference that prayer in my marriage has made. I feel like prayer might be the biggest practice and pursuit, if not sharing the top spot with Bible study, to help bring healing to my marriage and heart. So this really resonates with me and I hope your message reaches so many who are hurting, my friend! Blessings to you and your ministry!
Beth, I love your blog and thank you for your support and kind words. (BTW) if anyone is reading the comments if you press on Beth’s image it will take you to her marriage Blog called Messy Marriage. It’s a great resource and she shares a lot of helpful posts on how to get along when marriage is messy.
Please pray for my husband’s heart to be softened and for him to have the courage and faith it will take to turn from his sins. I pray he will first come to the foot of the cross and then come home. Thank you!
Dear Lord, I thank you for Erica’s faith and her hope-filled prayers for her marriage. Lord, I have seen You work in the hearts of people in my own family whom we thought would never turn to you, but they did. Your love softened their hearts when it never seemed possible. Lord, we pray that you would draw Erica’s husband to a place where he knows and understands the depth of your love for him. Your kindness leads us to repentance. We pray that you would break down the walls of hurt that block your love from getting through to his heart. No matter what, give Erica the peace and joy that we know doesn’t depend on our circumstances but that can only come from You. Be her joy Lord. Thank you for her example of love for her husband that prays for him to come home. Thank you for your many mercies toward us Lord. We surrender this unto You. In Jesus Name, ‘Amen.
Prayers for my marriage restoration please.
My husband left me a month in a half ago.
Last week he told me he was as seeking (which he already requested) funds to file for legal separation (divorce).
There was much frustration, miscommunication and hurt in both of our behalf but not for divorce.
He is being misguided by others.
I want my marriage and I am still holding on.
He won’t see me since he left. He has stopped taking to me unless it is really necessary. He had been moving things around to unlink himself from me (bank, cell phones, etc).
Our Father God is the only one who can restore us. Prayers are very needed please.
Oh, Nancy, My heart breaks for you and the pain you are experiencing.
Lord, You see Nancy’s breaking heart. You see her desire for restoration in her marriage. Father, I pray that you would replant the love in their marriage. Give Nancy your discernment and wisdom to know what to do. Place in the path of her husband, reminders of the root of their love and the hope that with You they can grow their marriage into a place where there is grace and unity– a place where you are the center that can hold them together. But in order for that to happen both spouses need to reach for you to help them. My prayer Lord, is that her husband would reach out to you and that You would help mend their marriage. Lord, I pray protection over Nancy if her husband chooses not to come back.. I pray that you would hold her up. Sustain her. Give her the strength to face each new day. Give her your peace that only You can give. Bring people into her day that will care for her and minister to her. Help her to know in the depths of her heart that she is not alone. In Jesus Name, Amen.
Amen… Thank you! I appreciate your prayer
God bless you.
Nancy,
I’m living almost the same exact narrative. I lift you and your husband up today to the God of miracles! He spoke a hundred billion galaxies into existence and He is more than able! I pray for both of our marriages to be restored so that God’s mighty power can be put on display– to Him be the glory!
Erica, God bless you! Thank you so much.
Praying for you as well Erica. I know we have God on our side… HIS WILL will prevail, he knows what’s best for us. We are his precious daughters and he will take care of us. In Jesus name, amen.
I am fasting most of my days since he left and praying day and night.
GOD hears us.
Lifting you and your marriage up to HIM!
Much love to you.
Valerie,
You’ve outdone yourself! This post is so spot on. You give hope to the marriages that can be saved while sharing words of understanding to those of us whose marriages couldn’t be. You’ve spoken with such grace. Praying God uses this post to help heal countless marriages and save people from the trauma of divorce.
Much love,
~Sherry Stahl
xoxo
Sherry, Your comment means so much to me because I admire your ministry and message. I know there are many women/men who are hurting and my heart breaks for them. Blessings to you!
This is fabulous stuff, Valerie!
So many people will be encouraged through this series – including me!
Thank you my dear encouraging friend!
If you can pray for my marriage to be restored my husband name is Martin and my name is Lorraine Calderon
Dear Lord, Thank you for Lorraine. Lord I know you see her request and you know her heart and see every need. Father wherever there needs restoration, may your Holy Spirit work in their hearts to bring them back to a place where they can be close to you and each other. Heal their hurts. Give Lorraine a measure of your strength and joy and peace that is beyond all human understanding. We love you Lord, Amen.
I have already subscribed to receive these beautiful prayers. So many of us need prayers for our marriage and God can transform every lifeless marriage into Heavenly abode.
I pray many will be blessed through this ministry
Diana
Thank you for signing up Diana. Blessings to you and your marriage.
Thanks for these words of grace and encouragement. God is definitely in the business of making dead things flourish again. Most couples go through times like you described. I wonder how many leave thinking there is no hope. May your words reach someone who is standing at that crossroad.
Thank you for your encouraging comment Donna. I pray as well that if there is a hurting wife reading this she will feel God’s peace in her soul through prayer.
Love your words of encouragement and hope for our marriages. Thanks for reminding us to put feet to action by using our knees for prayer! It is our privilege and responsibility to pray for what we want in our relationships. Great job Valerie!
It sure is a privilege to pray to our Lord. Thank you for visiting Gretchen!
Valerie, I am so glad I am your neighbor today and #MomentsofHope. This is such a beautiful post, filled with hope! I will be sharing this everywhere this week. The verse you highlighted has special meaning for me. Thank you!
Hi Leslie. I love it when God places a verse in my path that has special meaning. Thank you so much for sharing this post. Have a blessed day!
Beautiful words Valerie! I believe it is so important to pray for our marriage, our relationship. I would love prayer for my marriage seeking God’s will, seeking His strength, and asking Him to bind my marriage in love. Thank you for sharing!
Dear Lord, I pray you would fill Robin with your strength. Where she feels weak, I pray your Holy Spirit would lift her up. Lord, light the path of your will before them. Unite their marriage together in love. And Lord, help us all to see our spouses through the eyes of your grace. Mend all the broken places. In Jesus Name, Amen.