Today, I have the privilege of introducing you to my friend Marva. Her blog has inspired me with its vibrant colors and hopeful message from day one! Marva’s personality sparkles the joy of the Lord. I loved meeting her this Spring and seeing God use her gifts. I know if you visit her blog you will surely be blessed.
Guest Post by Marva at SunSparkleShine
In today’s world, raising girls is not a walk in the park. It seems everyone has something to sell and tell them. But sadly, not all of it is for their good.
Whether you’re a mom, auntie, or a role model, you can influence our girls for good. Here are 3 areas where we can shine so that our girls will shine too.
I won’t promise you that these will be easy.
They require time and effort, and you will need to go against the grain. But I’m certain they’re worth it.
How to Shine Bright So Your Girl Will Too
1. Make time for God
One of the best and most important ways to influence our girls is to focus on our personal relationship with God. This is the foundation on which all of our other relationships are built.
When we spend time with God, it transforms us and fills us up in such a way that spills over to others. We want our girls to benefit from this overflow from the Spirit and let them see what a difference it makes when we walk with Christ.
Allow your daughter to see you spending time with God so that she knows how important He is in your life. Let her see by your actions that He takes the number one spot.
Of course, in order to show her God, I need to actually live as one following God. Our girls are smart and will see through us if we’re trying to fake it.
When we allow ourselves to be transformed by God we pass on the best legacy to our girls.
Spending time with God is a win-win for my girl and for me, which makes it worth it.
2. Make time for her
Our girls want to feel loved and appreciated. Taking the time to spend together is a great way to show love to our girls and remind them of how important they are.
Consider spending time together in two ways:
Make time to train her in the things of God
This is something we need to be intentional about. Don’t assume that because she sees you having your devotions that she’ll automatically do the same. We need to train our girls in the things of God (Proverbs 22:6). This takes time and energy. And it’s worth it!
Make time for just being with her
My girl loves nothing more than mommy-daughter time. It’s not usually fancy but any time the two of us get to spend without the boys is special.
As your girl grows, find things she likes and do them together. Sure, this will mean learning a few new things and you might even have to step out of your comfort zone but guess what? It’s worth it!
3. Make time for you
Our society is good at teaching girls that they can do anything and be anything they like – they can have it all. Or maybe not. What we end up with is generations of women who are busy chasing dreams but not enjoying the journey. You can turn this around by your example.
Make rest a priority, schedule regular retreats, and make time for you.
Showing my girl the importance of self-care is — you guessed it — so worth it.
Spending time with God, spending time with your girl and making time for you won’t happen automatically. These things require time and effort on your part.
No one ever said raising girls was easy. But you know what? Your girl is worth it!
What about you?
What tips do you have for raising girls? I’d love to hear about them in the comments.
Wishing you blessings!
Marva Smith | SunSparkleShine.com
Marva is an island-living, sun-loving Christian wife, mother and wearer of many hats. Inspired by John 10:10 she encourages women to slow down and enjoy life to the full, brilliantly. You can find all the latest sparkle on her blog SunSparkleShine as well as Facebook, Pinterest, Twitter and Instagram. Get a free copy of her e-book You Were Made to Sparkle when you sign up for her Sparklelights newsletter here.
Such great tips. I have three girls aged 3 and under. I will definitely be spending time with these girls even more as they get older in what they are passionate about (even if it takes me out of my comfort zone)!
I have three girls too Denise. They grow up so fast. I love how you are willing to step out of your comfort zone in order to care about what they are passionate about. Blessings to you!
This is so important! If we don’t show our girls their importance in God and who He created them to be, the world surely will! Such great points!
That’s so true Esther! There are so many influences on our girls today and so it’s so important that we instill their God-given value and purpose.
I love what you say about taking time to teach her about God. Growing up I had no one to teach me of those things. I feel it’s so important now, for me as a mother, to make sure that she is more than just aware of God. That is takes time and dedication, devotion and intention to love him. Loving all these points your making here. thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. (by the way, found you through the link up-YAY)
Yes, Marva’s words are on point. Her post helps me evaluate how intentional I am actually being to disciple my daughters. Thank you so much for your comment.
This is a sweet post! I have two girls and I can resonate with each point. Thank you for this great reminder!
Thank you so much for these encouraging words. I have a fantastic 16 year old and I always want to be discipling her and filling her with my love and God’s.
Our daughters are certainly gifts from the Lord. I’m sure your 16 year old will grow up to appreciate the discipling you have given her.