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I felt defeated.
I just finished my devotions and spent time in God’s Word. Praying for patience. Praying for the ability to control my temper and not yell at my kids.
Less than 30 minutes later, all my efforts to remain calm were challenged.
It felt impossible.
I remember thinking that even if I found the most patient person in the world and gave them my four kids for a week, surely they would blow it too!
Have you been there?
Guess what? You have the tools to change!
I’m so excited to introduce a resource I know will help you implement change.
In Ruthie Gray’s book, Count to Nine, she gives practical ways to work through those moments when you feel like you just can’t manage anger.
I’ve had the privilege of getting to know Ruthie through several blogging groups. She has experience raising four kids (and now grandkids) and writes to encourage moms to keep pressing on.
She’s even started a Facebook group called Mom Time Out that offers support, encouragement and accountability.
Each chapter in her book offers a Scripture Pillar (action scripture), a Plan of Attack, Power Packed Pillar Prayers and Heart Action.
Ruthie gives practical action steps to implement changes and create new habits in the way we react.
She says,
“True wisdom is putting knowledge into ACTION. Moms have lots of ACTIONS throughout the day. We also have lots of REACTIONS.”
Each chapter will help you put the Three “C”’s based on Ephesians 4:26-27, into practice:
1. You’ll learn to curb your anger by doing something practical.
2. Confess when you blow it.
3. Cut the enemy out through power-packed pillar prayers!
This book crushes the self-defeating lies we tell ourselves that controlling our anger is just not possible.
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The believer possesses:
1. God’s Spirit
2. God’s Word
3. Access to God
4. God’s Power
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Each chapter felt like a pathway leading me through steps to work through anger.
1. Embrace a correct view of anger
2. Recognize Trigger Points
3. Envision Ideal Reaction
4. Implement vision reaction
5. Tackle Unbelief
6. Planning to Diffuse Stress
7. Practice Accountability
8. Establish Contentment
9. Actively Thank
Anger is a valid emotion. It’s what we do with it that matters. But it takes time and patience to learn new ways of reacting.
“Don’t be held back by lack of faith that God can change your spewing habit—remember, He’s the God of the impossible!”
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Ruthie’s book is an excellent resource for moms looking to curb their anger! Don’t you feel like a Mad-Mom Make-Over?
BONUS!!! As your gift with purchase, you will receive a beautiful, downloadable journal with Scripture cards!
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Hello there! I'm Valerie, a mom of four and wife of 27 years. My writing inspires others to cultivate courageous faith and find solace in trusting God, especially in moments of fear and uncertainty. Join me on this adventure as we explore the beauty of trusting God when we are afraid. 
Great review. Thank you for linking up with us at #HomeMattersParty .See you again next week.
Gosh do I ever know that feeling– not so much with kids but at my workplace. People unnerve me and being a small company where I hear everyone else venting, it’s been way too easy over 10 years to feel like I have acquired bad habits that will never change. I’m intrigued and really appreciate you sharing! Hope and help is on the way and God is in control even when I feel like I’m not. Have a blessed night Valerie!
Hello Heather,
Thank you so much for sharing. Sometimes it sure feels like it’s impossible to change! But I love that God provides us with the means to react in ways that are beneficial for ourselves and those around us. I pray that your work situation gets easier.
this is such a great topic for a book and something I know I struggled with as a young mom – my kids are grown and out of the house now – but I learned the 2 C was and has been the most powerful tool in our relationship – confess and admit when you are wrong. thanks for linking up at #RaRa today, where we are neighbors.
So nice to know that we are not alone. Thank you for visiting Debbie!
What a great review of Ruthie’s book, Valerie!
I’ve read it; and, it’s got some great stuff for moms in it!
You are a blessing to me and to so many others.
Thank you for everything you do!
(And, I’ve missed you!)
Thank you for your kind words Melanie!
I know I am going to need this advice when I’m a mom BIG TIME! Will definitely be bookmarking this for later and sharing with my mom friends! Great tips!
Thank you so much Lauren!
Thanks for sharing this! It is always nice to find another blogger mom in the same sort of stages in life. I have done this exact thing and am making steps toward progress but I think I thought if I walked away to do the dishes or something that it meant I was neglecting an issue – whereas this post makes me think again. Maybe I NEED to let myself do something instead of guilt tripping myself over not “handling” the issue right away. Ruthie sounds amazing, I may check out her Facebook group! I love your blog design too by the way.
Yep, you’re not alone. And if you decide to join MTO you’ll get so much support and see how many women share in the same struggles and help each other through. God bless you Meghan!
Yes four children will get to you and even when they are grown the challenges don’t stop, lol. I have one in New York, one in Africa, one in a distant part of the state, and one in a state of his own ( he has schizophrenia) so there you go no control just God before me , God beside me and hopefully God through me helping them all.
Lol! Wow, your kids are spread out. That must be hard. I can imagine letting go as they leave the nest really does require that we trust in God’s control. Thank you so much for sharing!
Valerie,
Ruthie’s book looks really good! Great review!
Thank you Lori!
Oh, I’ve been there. I remember my oldest son while in college was “Nanny” to his 4 younger brothers for a week while we were on a trip. When we got back, he said, “What’s the problem, Mom. This was a piece of cake.” LOL He understands more now as a dad. Your post is filled with such encouraging points. Thanks for sharing them!
Yes. Sometimes our kids have the ability to show just how much they can use their best manners for others. I always say that I’m super glad my kids are always well behaved in school. When I was a teacher, I remember parents acting shocked when I told them how well-mannered their kid was at school,
Great encouragement, Valerie! Our kiddos definitely know what buttons to push, don’t they? So glad Ruthie has a plan to help!
Yes, Deb, they certainly do! Ruthie’s book is very hands-on and helpful.