A few months after starting my blog I received a message from Deb Wolf of Counting My Blessings asking if I would like to join a private FB group with a few other bloggers. Those bloggers would become my tribe—my prayer warriors, my friends, my encouragers. Deb has always stood behind my writing because she knows what it’s like to battle fear and worry. Today it is my honor and joy to have her as a guest for the Summer Sizzle blog hop.
Stop worrying!
It’s not good for you!
It’s bad for your health – mentally, physically, and spiritually.
But it’s easier said than done, isn’t it?
Life happens and there are plenty of things to worry about.
And with practice, you can turn worrying into a fine art as you try to foresee and prevent any and all possible problems.
I know what it’s like to be an expert worrier. “What if” questions dominated my thoughts.
So…
Take my word for it – or don’t —
Worrying doesn’t help anything.
It is pointless and unproductive.
In fact, the negative effects of worry are so bad for us. It’s really not worth it.
The Bible has a lot of verses about worrying…
“The Lord Himself will go before you. He will be with you; He will not leave you or forget you. Don’t be afraid and don’t worry.” Deuteronomy 31:8
“He [God] gives [people] the ability to accept their state in life and enjoy their work. They do not worry about how short life is because God keeps them busy with what they love to do.” Ecclesiastes 5:19–20
“Don’t be afraid! Don’t worry! I have always told you what will happen. You are my witnesses. There is no other God but me. I know of no other Rock; I am the only One.” Isaiah 44:8
“Look at the birds in the air. They don’t plant or harvest or store food in barns, but your heavenly Father feeds them. And you know that you are worth much more than the birds. You cannot add any time to your life by worrying about it.” Matthew 6:26–27
“So don’t worry about tomorrow, because tomorrow will have its own worries. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” Matthew 6:34
“Do not worry about anything, but pray and ask God for everything you need, always giving thanks.” Philippians 4:6
Without qualification . . . you and I are not to worry about anything.
Worry is a lack of trust
Why? Because worry is a lack of trust. The more you and I trust God, the less we will worry.
It’s just that simple.
Well, simple to say . . . not so simple to do.
And Paul said in Philippians 4: Tell God what you need and thank Him for all He has done. Then you will experience God’s peace, which exceeds anything we can understand. His peace will guard your hearts and minds as you live in Christ Jesus.
I was a very little girl when I first heard those words and even though I’ve them repeated often, I still struggled with fear and apprehension.
I worried about succeeding at school, my parent’s approval, the health and safety of people I loved, and what friends and teachers thought about me.
And it didn’t get any better after Rev and I got married and had children.
I worried about being the “perfect” mom, wife, daughter, and friend. I worried about never having enough time to accomplish everything. I worried about my children’s physical, mental, and spiritual health.
I don’t know, it just always seemed like there was more than enough to keep me busy worrying.
Then about a dozen years ago, God lovingly showed me the truth.
Even with all my worry . . . I couldn’t prevent some of the very things I’d worried about from happening.
So, for all my efforts all I’d done was hurt my health and ruin my mood.
I ended up on medication to treat anxiety and had to abandon my fight for perfection because let’s face it, an anxious and stressed out mom is hardly “perfect!”
Worry is worthless!
It didn’t prevent a child’s rejection, an extended life-threatening illness, a premature birth, divorces, and death.
But God…
Two of my favorite words.
But God showed His faithfulness, carrying us through crisis after crisis with His strength and love.
And I learned to worry less because as God carried us through I began to trust Him more. It’s like an outward growing circle – more trust -> less worry -> more trust -> less worry -> more trust!
Lord, don’t hold back your tender mercies from me. Let your unfailing love and faithfulness always protect me. Psalm 40:11
For His unfailing love for us is powerful; the Lord’s faithfulness endures forever. Praise the Lord! Psalm 117:2
God is loving and faithful.
Yes, bad things happen. That’s why we worry. But focusing on potential problems is shortsighted thinking. God has an eternal plan for us. One that goes far beyond our temporary troubles.
For our present troubles are small and won’t last very long. Yet they produce for us a glory that vastly outweighs them and will last forever!
2 Corinthians 4:17
Deb is a passionate blessing counter who loves to study the ways faith and life intersect. This year at Counting My Blessings, she is SEEKing God’s will – one day at a time.
Seek the Kingdom of God above all else, and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. Matthew 6:33
Deb lives in Missouri with her husband and furry child, Sadie now that all of their human children are grown and have little ones of their own. And yes, being a grandparent is the best!
She’s hoping you will join her on Pinterest, Facebook and Twitter.
You are so right, Deb. Worry is a lack of trust – and then we’re afraid to trust because what if God lets something happen? But things are going to happen, as you pointed out! And peace of mind by trusting our Savior is wayyyyy more worth it than worry. <3
So true Ruthie! Sometimes we waver between trusting God and worrying that if we do something bad will happen. But we can waste so much life worrying about what if. The good news is that even if something happens, God is always with us. He never leaves us!
Valerie, thank you soooo much! You bless me! I love that God brought us together. You are an amazing encourager and I love seeing the way God is growing courage in you! <3 You are going to help countless people with your story! You are already!!
You are a blessing and an inspiration to me. I love your post. Worrying about potential problems is exhausting. I’m so glad we have a God whom we can trust no matter what happens in our lives.
Wonderful words of encouragement, Deb, and Valerie!
Sure do appreciate you both~
Thank you, Melanie! You bless me!
Thank you for sharing your heart with such openness and honesty, Deb. I consider myself a serial planner which has led me to experience extreme bouts of worry. However, when I came across Psalm 37:7, it struck a cord with me. Rest in the Lord and wait patiently for Him. I am still a work in progress, but I am trying to train myself to rest in the Lord. Immersing myself in God’s Word is the first step in suppressing my worry. God asks me to trust Him, so I want to live obediently and do just that. Casting my cares puts everything in God’s omnipotent hands. This allows me to exhale and focus on what He has called me to do. Sorry for the long comment, but your post spoke to me. Thank you again for sharing Deb and thank you Valerie. May God continue to bless you both in all your endeavors.
Oh, thank you, Horace! There is a fine line between careful planning and worry isn’t there? I try to decide if I’ve crossed that line by asking myself is this constructive/productive – or is it destructive (eating at my attitude and health). I like that reminder to “Rest in the Lord.” I recently started breathing in “God cares” and breathing out “Jesus saves.” It calms me immediately. Thanks so much for joining the conversation! God bless you!
BUT GOD came through in His faithfulness . This is my story as well. All the worries , cares , fear ,anxieties just end up hurting our health . I am so glad I stopped by to read this Deb! You just might be my Twin 🙂
Valerie, isn’t it amazing how God brings the right friend along in our lives ❤️
I’d love being your twin!!! Don’t you just love those words, “But God…” I try to hold them close when my mind gets ahead of me. Remembering all that God has carries us through has been huge in knowing I can trust Him with whatever comes tomorrow. Thanks, girl! Blessings and hugs!