It’s the second week of the Summer Sizzle Blog Hop! I’m excited to introduce you to my friend Nicki Schroeder who has been a great encouragement to me! She writes at Showered in Grace to help women find joy during our busy and often messy lives. She is also a Christian radio personality in the Midwest. 

Guest post by Nicki Schroeder

“Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 1 Corinthians 13:4-7

How many of us live out these biblical truths in our marriage? They are hard to put into practice on a “good” day, but on those hard, crazy overwhelming days it’s only by the grace of God that we can learn to love like Jesus loved!

Only through the grace of God can you learn to love your spouse when you don’t feel like it.

  • Love is patient, with our spouses and the curve balls life throws at us.
  • Love is kind, even when our spouses are cranky.
  • Love is humble, even when we are the one that is “right” in an argument.
  • Love is filled with honesty and Godly truth.
  • Love is endearing, even when our spouses are not.
  • Love endures all things, even the biggest stresses that life can throw at us.
  • Love is filled with a hope that only comes from knowing Jesus Christ.

Let’s face it, this love stuff is tough work. #SummerSizzleBlogHop Share on X

We are busy. We have responsibilities. Little and big people to care for. To do lists a mile long. Laundry and lots of it. And sometimes romance is the first thing to fly out the proverbial window in our marriage.

But in the middle of all the daily craziness, don’t you want to feel loved by the one person on this earth that you vowed to go through life with? I sure do.

How do you show love to your spouse in the daily chaos of life? Learn your spouse’s love language!

My hubby’s love language is home cooked meals so I have learned to love the act of cooking because it makes him happy. I randomly tuck little love notes inside his lunch box. I mow the lawn on a hot summer day while he’s at work, or take out the trash before he gets home from an extra long work day. Sometimes I buy his favorite candy bar when I’m out running errands. It’s the little things that make him happy.

My love language is quality time and acts of service. I don’t need roses, or diamonds or even chocolates to feel loved by my hubs. But a little patience, encouragement, a listening ear and a man willing to empty the dishwasher when I’m having a crazy week goes a long way for me. I love that my husband takes time to show me he loves me, even when he’s having a super busy week!

Let’s make it our mission to love our husbands every day of the year. In the middle of our messes. In the little ways that matter.

What can you do to let your husband know how much you love him this week?

Not sure what your spouse’s love language is? You can take this free quiz created by Dr. Gary Chapman to help you start to show love in ways that truly speak to your spouse’s heart. P.S. It helps if your spouse takes it too!

Nicki Schroeder is a Christian radio personality in the Midwest. She is the creator of “The Grace Challenge,” Bible encouragement to help you glorify Jesus in the middle of your busy, beautiful life. Nicki is a writer and speaker who strives for authenticity in her relationship with Jesus and others. She is a soul encourager who loves coffee, cupcakes and Jesus, just not in that order.  Visit her for weekly encouragement at 


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