Where do you find your peace?

I’ve asked myself this question and realized I’ve spent far too much time seeking peace in the wrong place.

You see, I made the mistake of thinking that if my marriage was at peace then I would be at peace. 

We all want our marriages to be peaceful and healthy and we know that God does too. It’s when we seek our own peace through our marriage where we come to a dead-end. Because all marriages go through their own set of ups and downs.

My peace cannot be sought in the state of my marriage but in my relationship with the Lord. 

He is the source of peace for myself AND for my marriage.

When I began to pray for my marriage I was able to lay aside my burdens and seek peace from my Heavenly Father.

Praying for your marriage:

Protects your thoughts and heart

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.  And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:6-7

You will keep in perfect peace those whose minds are steadfast, because they trust in you. Isaiah 26:3

When we present our requests for our marriage before the Lord, He will guard our hearts and our minds. There are three key words in Philippians 4:7 that tell us how to guard our hearts and minds— IN Christ Jesus.

All the turmoil and anxious thoughts you are carrying in your mind, all the hurt and wounds your heart is bleeding–In Christ Jesus you can find peace. Perfect peace.

Peace doesn’t depend upon your circumstances. Share on X

Gives you strength

The Lord gives strength to His people; the Lord blesses His people with peace. Psalm 29:11

When we are going through struggles in our marriage we often feel weak. We don’t know what to do or how to fix our problems. But God knows. God gives us strength to keep fighting for our marriage. This strength gives us peace.

Helps you trust God to fight for your marriage.

God The Lord will fight for you, and you shall hold your peace. Exodus 14:14 

What peace it brings to know that God Almighty cares about my marriage and will be fighting against the Enemy for my husband and I! This also means that I don’t have to fight back to defend myself–which often leads to unhealthy communication.  Instead, I can seek to resolve conflict in healthy ways with an attitude of trust in God because I don’t have to prove myself. God knows my situation. We can have peace because God is in control.

Helps you Live in the Power of the Holy Spirit

To be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace. (Romans 8:6)

We need the power of the holy spirit to train our thoughts to be spiritually minded. And this happens through prayer.

Helps You Obey

Oh, that you had heeded My commandments! Then your peace would have been like a river! (Isaiah 48:18)

When we’re stuck in sinful patterns of thinking and behavior in marriage, prayer helps us to see our own sin and ask forgiveness from God. This leads to a repentant heart that seeks to obey God with our actions. Obeying God brings peace.

Keeps You Humble

The meek shall inherit the earth, and shall delight themselves in the abundance of peace. (Psalm 37:11)

Prayer humbles me. Plain and simple. When I see the depravity of my own sin and need for forgiveness, I’m humbled. God’s grace overflows in my heart and I’m able to love my husband with grace. Humility brings peace.

Helps You Pursue Peace with Your Spouse

Pursue peace with all people, and holiness, without which no one will see the Lord. (Hebrews 12:14)

When my thoughts and actions are causing division in marriage, prayer helps me pursue holiness and peace in my household. Pursuing peace with my husband brings God’s peace to my soul.

Helps You Endure

Though the mountains be shaken and the hills be removed, yet my unfailing love for you will not be shaken nor my covenant of peace be removed,” says the LORD, who has compassion on you. Isaiah 54:10

When marriage doesn’t feel Instagram-worthy and we wonder if the storm will ever leave, God’s unshakable love will never leave us. We can have peace to endure and pray that the season of hardship will pass and make us stronger through it. 

And so today, no matter where you’re at–whether a time of peace and unity in your marriage or a time of struggle, you can have peace no matter what.

Dear Lord,

Thank you that my peace doesn’t depend upon my circumstances. Lord, when I surrender my anxieties to you in prayer I’m able to fill my soul with your joy that is beyond all human understanding. I have hope in you. I have hope in your power and sovereignty over my life. Renew my heart with your joy and peace. Steady me. In Your Name, I Pray, Amen

If you are in an emotionally or physically abusive marriage please seek help. If you feel suicidal you can text 741741 when you are feeling depressed or suicidal, a crisis worker will text you back immediately and continue to text with you. Many people don’t like talking on the phone and would be more comfortable texting. It’s a FREE service to ANYONE – teens, adults, etc. – who live in the U.S. It’s run by The Crisis Text Line.
YOU MATTER! #youmattertome.

If you think you are in an abusive relationship you can also call: https://www.thehotline.org/help/

Here are some resources I recommend.

The Emotionally Destructive Marriage: https://amzn.to/2z04wXR

Why Does He Do That? https://amzn.to/2PDeSq4

Boundaries in Marriage: https://amzn.to/2DnS4ox

Loving Your Spouse When You Feel Like Walking Away: https://amzn.to/2CXycrj

The Verbally Abusive Relationship: https://amzn.to/2F6Dgw3